The topic is vacation. Cue the music and relaxing scenes. Happy family by beach or pool, frolicking in the water. Maybe the parents are just sipping frozen drinks while the kids are in the Super-Fun Kid Club! Wish it could be me and mine. Alas, not so practical. For the past five to seven years, the husband and I have primarily vacationed without each other. And I think it has saved our marriage and family. No, truly.
I have felt guilty and ashamed this has been going on while the rest of the normal families vacationed happily and cheerfully around us. I felt jealous, they were bonding more than our unorthodox family. I felt, if only, we could all go together, it would be great and just what we needed.
You know what? It isn't. Nope not one bit... the last thing my family needs is more together time. Really.
We bust are "us" together during every week of the year. My husband and I communicate about every nuance of Builder and Bounce. All we need is some serious down time.
This not my childhood; where Dad was rarely home except to take us on Spring Break and Summer vacation. Nope, Dad is here every step of the way, every painful step of life we take, Dad is there. Mom is there is there to deal patiently every day after school, while we struggle mightily with completing 3 pages of work. We are exhausted. The last thing we need is to be together as a family more than we already are.
I want to sleep solidly without hearing snoring. I want to wake up and not mediate a fight. I want to hear nothing.
I love my family with every ounce of my being. But I do not want to vacation with them as a whole. Me and the boys with my gal pals and all their kids....Count Me In. Me and the boys with Dad and Jeanne...Count Me In! Me and the Dad...Count Me In. Me and all of my boys...count me with a prior engagement.
Only because I love them all so much! I'm pretty sure my husband is also OK with our unorthodox arrangement. He recently turned the packed car around after an hour and a half with us in the car. It's not just OK. It's all good.
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