Summer..not so fun for parents like me. Unstructured days mean really hard work for us special needs parents. For example, today, my ten year old and I (he is more 5 developmentally) set up fishing and paper mache, went to Target and cleaned the back room. And of those activities got us to noon. I advocated for calling for play dates. But, he knows like I do, there are none to be found. I am his play date and he knows it. Briefly, there was an opportunity for him to go with his brother on a group play date, but I chose to have his brother away from Builder for that brief time. Bounce needed the break from his brother more than Builder needed the play date. These are the decisions we make every day about our unique children. These are the decisions no one else knows we make. They are brokered by silent rules of who has been the most damaged by the recent outbursts, arguments, or activities.
Another mom and I took all the kids plus some extras to the pool at four. I forced Builder to go after he had set himself up with a cooler filled with water and his legs inside. He was hot. I had already told him no, but that is never a deterrent to him. He didn't want to go to the pool, but I told him he had to go with us. He loved it. He got to play in the water, mostly with his mom.
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