I had no idea. These are the words people say to me when they have the rare moment of actually seeing, sharing, or living with some of the really super-hard behaviors of children on the spectrum or ADHD. They are truly shocked and surprised at the intensity and extremes of the tantrums, fits, or screamed verbiage.
It is hearing those words and that moment, every parent who lives with these behaviors daily, weekly, or monthly feels even more isolated. It becomes even more clear how different our child and lives are than the mainstream.
Ironically, we parents of spectrum-kids already knew "they had no idea." Because, how could they? Our goal has been and is to get through each day minus a breakdown (including our own.
Careful steps are taken to insure each day goes as smoothly as possible. Any indication the child is about to blow and we whisk them out of that scene as fast as possible. Before any family party or new event, husband and wife decide whether to bring two cars and who will be the designated caretaker. Of course, timing is everything. But sometimes, it happens, the terrific tantrum or fantastic fit.
And...I must admit, I had no idea it would be this hard.
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